SMTP delivery setup.

Need help setting up the delivery configurations in my SMTP server. 

I am seving a website from my home PC with IIS 5.X on win XP.  I have written an email form that uses the following CDNOTS code.

<%
Dim Mname, Memail, Mcomments, Mphone, Maddress
Mname = Request.Form("Name")
Memail = Request.Form("Email")
Mphone = Request.Form("Phone")
Maddress = Request.Form("Address")
Mcomments = Request.Form("Comments")

Dim Mailer
Set Mailer = Server.CreateObject("CDONTS.NewMail")
Mailer.To = "tduane@nycap.rr.com   (Tom Duane)"
Mailer.From = Memail & "   (" & Mname & ")"
Mailer.Subject = "Estimate Request"
Mailer.Body = Mname & " " & Memail & " " & Mphone & " " & Maddress & " " & Mcomments
Mailer.Send
Set Mailer = nothing
%>

The code works fine and so does the CDNOTS DLL or whatever it is.  My email is captured and sent to the Queue folder.  But It just stays in the queue folder. 

What should my delivery options be.  Specifically for the FQDN and the smart host. 

As of now I have my IP address in the FQDN and my ISPs SMTP server in the smart host?????

Help please, I have searched many threads and cannot find a shred of info on how to setup the SMTP delivery options.  Thanks!!

Its quite easy to configure, fire up IIS (control panel > administrative tools > Internet Information Services) right click 'Default SMTP' server in the tree view and select 'properties'.

Then click the access tab and click the 'relay...' button, make sure the list that comes up is empty then check 'All exept the list below' click OK and your done.

thanks but, I believe that allows others to use my server to relay messages. 

My issue is my messages stay in the Queue?  I'm not sure if my delivery options are set up correctly.