Having Problems Setting Up

For The SQL_server_connection. What Do I Put For strSQLServerName, I Can't Seem To Figure It Out, And The Person Running The Server Doesn't Know Either.

I Put This In The ASP Page:
strSQLServerName = "www.emilio-usa.com"
strSQLDBUserName = "test"
strSQLDBPassword = "test"
strSQLDBName = "joe.mdb"

And Then I Go To The msSQL_server_setup.asp

I Get - Error Connecting to database on SQL Server

Check the following is set up and correct:-

SQL Server User Name
SQL Server Password
Name of the SQL Server
Database name set up by you on the server
Empty Database set up by you on the SQL Server

Any Help Will Appreciated