How do I create a db on a SQL server?

I think you are still confused.

SQL Server is not a flat file like Access, you don't have a physical database file as such.

You need to install MS SQL Server onto a server making sure you have set it up that it allows you to connect to it using TCP/IP

You then need to create a database on the SQL Server (this is not a flat phsical file but a database on the actual MS SQL Server)

You then need to enter the correct information into the forums connection page to connect to the database created on the MS SQL Server (you connect to the database on the MS SQL Server not a file).

Try looking up on Google how MS SQL Server works as this should help you understand a little more as it is completly different to the flat physical file system that Access uses.

When you look at the SQL servers through enterprise mangager they should have names or IP addresses.

For a local MS SQL install you can use 'localhost' as the name of the MS SQL server.

I see that you made it work.  How did you do it?